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Tourism Authority closes down 21 facilities in Brong-Ahafo

The Brong-Ahafo Regional office of the Ghana Tourism Authority (GTA) has stepped up measures to ensure that operators in the hospitality industry comply with regulations and minimum standards.

The office has, therefore, set-up a task force made up of the Police and officials of the Authority, to undertake an eight-day enforcement exercise to check the operational licenses and other important documents of restaurants, hotels, guest houses, hostels and drinking bars in the Region.

Some of the officials of the authority closing down a hotel

Mr Joseph Appiah-Agyei, the Acting Brong-Ahafo Regional Director of GTA, in an interview with the Ghana News Agency (GNA) on Thursday, said the taskforce had visited the 21 facilities that had been closed down.

He said the Authority, with support from the Environmental Protection Agency, had identified about 40 facilities comprising hotels, guest houses, hostels, and drinking bars unlawfully operating in the Region.

They have no operational licenses, no permits, need renovations, whilst others lacked fire certificates and other relevant documents.

Mr Appiah-Agyei said the Authority was negotiating with operators of some of the closed-down facilities to obtain or renew their permits, warning that legal actions would be taken against those who failed to comply.

An affected hotel

Meanwhile, some of the operators in the Sunyani Municipality have expressed dismay about the closure of their facilities.

They told the GNA during a visit that the Authority did not give them notice or reminder before undertaking the exercise.

“As a human institution, we expect the Authority to at least serve us a notice or reminder. Closing our facilities down will not solve the problem. We need to collaborate for the right thing to be done in the interest of us all,” an attendant at one of the drinking bars, who pleaded anonymity, told the GNA.

 

 

 

 

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STC recruits 100 young ladies as ‘cabin crew’

Recruiting 100 ladies as crew members on board is  one of the company’s way of attracting customers. The recruitment ended last week.

State Transport Company (STC) is set to recruit 100 young ladies as cabin crew, Chief Executive of the firm, Nana Akomea has said.

The move is part of numerous marketing efforts being undertaken by the new management to make the company competitive and attractive to travelers.

“The “cabin crew” service which will transform passenger service in Ghana is set to roll. Recruitment of a 100 young ladies were concluded last week. Their training is ongoing. Trial runs will start next week Wednesday. The service will be fully launched first week of September 2017,” Nana Akomea wrote in a Facebook post Friday.

Former President Mahama (middle) flanked by Mr Patrick Vanderpuye, Board Chairman of STC, and the all-female crew members,during the commissioning of new buses acquired

He said the transport company also intends to name one of its upcoming terminals after its immediate past CEO, Dr. Nuamah Donkor, for his immense contributions to the company.

“I will plead that the transformation of this venerable state institution is not turned into an npp-ndc rivalry. Hon Nuamah Donkor and his team played a great role in bringing STC back. They oversaw the acquisition of 50 state -of the -art buses/coaches in October last year. Indeed, one newly revamped station is proposed to be named for Nuamah Donkor”.

A crew member attending to a customer

“The new management is building on this to totally transform the operations of STC and return it to profitability. Firm arrangements have been concluded to triple stc’s fleet strength by December 2017”.

Nana Akomea also hinted that drivers are being trained to enable them offer the best of services to customers.

“Drivers are being retrained and rebranded. The inconsistent WiFi service on the coaches is being revamped. The difficult Accra- Kumasi route due to the presence of strong rivals is being tackled head on. With the new loading point established at Nkrumah Circle last week, STC now runs ten fully loaded services every day from Nkrumah Circle to Kumasi.

Nana Akomea, STC boss

“Workers/Staff welfare is top priority. STC, starting September, will be current with workers’ SSNIT payments and conclude arrangements to retire the 2 years arrears owed SSNIT. Similar arrangements have been put in place for staff Provident payments. Salary reviews are back on the table”

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Women are made for love and attention – Duncan-Williams

Archbishop Duncan Williams

The Presiding Archbishop and General Overseer of the Action Chapel International Ministry, Nicholas Duncan-Williams, has counseled men ready to marry to shower enough attention and love on their partners.

“Women are made for attention, for security and for love,” the archbishop told Bola Ray on Starr Chat.

He added that he failed to show affection and attention towards his ex wife because his father did not set that example for him and his siblings.

“My father never hugged me till he died, I didn’t see my dad showing any affection around to the kids or any of his wives…so the truth of the matter is that, when I reflect by looking back, I realize that there is no example for me to look up to and to appreciate anything that she [my wife] wanted.”

The archbishop and his current wife, Rosa Whitaker Duncan-Williams

The 60-year-old archbishop, popularly called the PAPA by his pastors and congregation, added that his marriage failed because he did not understand the concept of marriage, and called on people to openly display affection to their partners and not pay heed to public perception.

Men… must shower attention and love on their partners

“Over here, if you watch we are not very affectionate people, we don’t send roses, I never saw my father send roses to anyone…so to tell me to send roses, flowers, those things were problems for me in those days, now I am okay with it.”

From humble beginnings, Duncan-Williams has risen to become a remarkable man of God who represents Ghana and Africa on an international level.

In 2017, the Archbishop was named by the New African Magazine one of “The 100 Most Influential Africans”.

The Archbishop became the first non-American to lead the prayer for the incoming President and Vice President of the United States during the inauguration.

 

 

 

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Looking good is not what keeps me up at night – Samira Bawumia

Samira Bawumia

Ghana’s beautiful and fashionable Second Lady Hajia Samira Bawumia has openly admitted that she loves to look good but looking good is not what keeps her awake at night.

She emphasized that her real focus is not just to look good but how she can impact the lives of other people positively with her good looks.

Madam Samira has been consistent with her looks and become a constant point of attraction with her classy sense of fashion. The Vice President’s wife make headlines with her impeccable style, no matter the occasion but don’t be ‘fooled’, Ghana’s gorgeous 2nd Lady has disclosed that she also has her share of bad and stressful moments in her quest to always look good.

Mrs. Bawumia opened up about her style and how she wants her style to bring positive change, on stage during the just ended Glitz Style Awards 2017 held at the Mövenpick Hotel Saturday, August 19.

Mrs. Bawumia revealed at the star studded annual event that her efforts, thoughts and passion are rooted in how to cause meaningful change in the lives of Ghanaians at all levels.

“Everyone knows I love to look good and I try. Even though I like to look good, that is not what keeps me up at night. What keeps me up at night is thinking about how I can make a difference in people’s lives. After all, when all is said and done, it’s not what you wore or what you did, but what it meant to the people. It’s the impact you made in people’s lives”.

She called on Ghanaians to join her and her NPP government on this journey.

“So join us on this journey to positively affect people’s lives, to change lives to make Ghana better. Please help us, stay with us, come with us on this exciting journey” a portion of her acceptance speech read.

She made this remark in her acceptance speech after she was honoured as ‘Style Icon’ at the 2017 Glitz Style Awards 2017.

Watch Samira on stage at Glitz Style Awards 2017:

 

 

 

 

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Over 2000 Hotels in Ghana to be displayed on World market – GTA

The Ghana Tourism Authority (GTA) is implementing a one-stop shop to showcase the more than 2000 registered Ghanaian hotels and promote the country’s tourism sector on the world market.

The project forms part of the modules of the National Tourism Single Window Destination being executed to deepen public access to information on the country’s tourism profile in a broader perspective.

Mrs Catherine Afeku, the Minister of Tourism, Arts and Culture, said this in an address during a Hospitality Excellence Breakfast Meeting organised by the GTA in Accra on Tuesday.

It was to school key players in the tourism industry on the progress of the project and the way forward.

She said more than 60 per cent of the hotels in Ghana had poor online presence, which made them invisible in the world market, thereby, causing them to experience poor patronage.

Royal Senchi Hotel

Mrs Afeku said the project would give such hotels an adequate online presence and increase their marketability by creating a database to store their information and web portal to get them connected to visitors and tourists the world over.

She added that the framework would also position Ghana on the forefront of “the world’s competitive market” as the system would publicise the country’s rich tourist sites while displaying their quality standards.

Accra Beach Hotel

“When Ghana is known for quality tourism, it would attract thousands of people to the country and create more avenue of income for the people,” Mrs Afeku said.

Mr Francis B. Gavor, the Business Development Manager of SGS, the project’s implementation leader, said the system would help the GTA to mobilise revenue for the development of the tourism sector by deploying mechanisms to enhance tourism levy collection.

He said it would connect all the stakeholders in the tourism industry and help them to interface electronically, while deploying strategies to ensure that the one per cent levy charged from tourism operators was paid and monitored.

It would also help in the issuance of certificates for tourism operations by automating registration and licensing processes and cut down delays and the challenges the operators went through when acquiring some significant documentation from the GTA.

Fiesta Royale Hotel

“This will enhance tourism development and change the face of Ghana’s tourism for economic development,” he added.

La Palm Royal Beach Hotel

As part of efforts to ensure the successful implementation of the project, a team of more than 13 personnel from key institutions in the tourism sector, including the SGS, GTA and the Tourism Ministry has been set up and charged to oversee the full execution of the project.

Best Western Plus Atlantic Hotel,Sekondi,Western Region

 

Mrs Afeku urged the team members, being led by Professor Kwaku Boakye, a Research Consultant at the University of Cape Coast, to work closely to ensure the smooth execution of the system.

The event also saw the GTA launching its new “Quality Service Charter,” which seeks to ensure the delivery of excellent tourism services to its clients and the public.

Mr Alex Boakye, the Manager of Quality Assurance at the GTA, pledged the commitment of the organisation towards delivering on its mandate to achieve “Ghana’s target of leading African tourism space by the year 2026.”

 

 

 

 

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Otiko campaigns against child marriage in N/R

Minister for Gender, Children and Social Protection, Otiko Afisah Djaba is on a three-day advocacy tour of the Northern Region against child marriage which is hampering girl child education.

She is to address the Northern Regional House of Chiefs, today (Tuesday) to garner enough support from the traditional authorities to minimize the situation.

She is also expected to visit the Northern Regional Juvenile Correctional Centre.

Otiko Afisah Djaba at the Dakpema and Gulkpegu Naa palaces in Tamale called for a multifaceted approach to tackle the situation.

She emphasized the need for chiefs and the clergy to support government’s quest to end child marriage prevalent in the Northern Region.

She cited an increase in illiteracy rate, HIV and other sexually transmitted infections, obstetric fistula, maternal and infant mortalities as some of the dangers associated with the menace.

“Government is doing its part by creating legislation. We expect our chiefs and religious leaders to complement government’s efforts by exposing the perpetrators of child marriage so as to safeguard the health and development of our young girls.”

“The purpose of my visit is also to explain certain government policies and initiatives to very important stakeholders including the chiefs, religious leaders as well as civil society organisations whose contributions matter a lot in the implementation of such policies and initiatives,” she explained.

The chief of Tamale, Naa Dakpema Dawuni Alhassan lauded the minister’s campaign and urged government to strictly enforce laws on child marriage.

“Child marriage is a new thing in Dagbon and people who indulge in the practice should be made to face the law.”

Naa Dakpema condemned the practice of children roaming on the streets of Tamale Township late at night.

Otiko Afisah Djaba at the Northern Regional Coordinating Council told the regional Minister, Salifu Sa-eed that plans were far advanced to implement the Ghana National Household Registry programme.

“I need the full cooperation and support of all MMDAs in your region to enable my ministry carryout this programme successfully. In every district, we expect the assemblies to provide our staff with office space for the period that they will be working in the districts to gather data and information.”

According to her, the Ghana National Household Registry is to establish a single national household register which will capture the data of all beneficiaries’ of social protection programs.

“The programme is funded by the World Bank through a US$9million facility negotiated by the government of Ghana.”

According to UNICEF, in Ghana, one out of every five girls is in marriage or in an informal union or cohabitation arrangement.

 

 

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citifmonline.com

‘Men who want tight vagina don’t know sex’ – Midwife

Madam Mary Azika addressing the meeting

A veteran midwife in the Upper East region, Mary Azika, has chastised men with preference for “tight vagina”, saying such sexual partners have a lot in common with an apprentice who is eager to exhibit in public skills yet to be acquired.

Of deep concern to the celebrated midwife is the observable trend in which several women, in a desperate bid to attract the men who say they enjoy penetration only when it is tight, are now resorting to harmful concoctions and gels to tighten their private parts.

Because men claim they want tight vagina, women are inserting all sorts of concoctions into their vagina in a desperate bid to attract the men

“Women are inserting concoction into their vagina claiming they want the vagina to be tight. Some would insert garlic, all sorts of concoction and cotton soaked with gel and pushed into the vagina so that men would say it is tight. These concoctions can expose you to cervical cancer. Any man who wants vagina to be tight before he penetrates doesn’t know sex. Forget that person.

“If the vagina is tight and the man forces to penetrate, there are cuts around the vagina walls. And for men, if you are entering and the vagina is tight, that’s ho you easily get HIV. Through penetration, if there is friction, there are cuts around the penis, there are cuts around the vagina walls, there is blood contact; so, you easily get HIV,” Madam Azika cautioned.

She was speaking at a seminar organised in Bolgatanga by the Upper East Regional branch of the Distance Education Students Association of Ghana (DESAG).

Sponsored by AQUABOLG Natural Mineral Water, the event was themed: “10 years of distance education and its impact on socio-economic growth and development of the Upper East Region: A transformational force.”

“Don’t let the men deceive you, claiming that the vagina is supposed to be tight, so that when they are penetrating, they would enjoy. They are causing harm to you. There is no loose vagina, please. Several babies pass through the vagina and it’s still the same. After delivery, it goes back to its former state,” she stressed.

Northern Region has least HIV Prevalence Rate

Map showing current HIV prevalence rate in Ghana

The midwife also urged women to do regular screening for cervical cancer, stating that a delay in doing so could prove fatal in the end.

“The only prevention for cervical cancer is to go for screening. When you go for screening and you are positive, though you are positive, you haven’t gotten to cancerous stage yet; something can be done; there is treatment for it. But when it gets to the cancerous stage, they will look at the degree.

“If they think they should remove the whole uterus and the cervix for you to survive, they would do that. But if they see that where you have gotten to, there is nothing they can do, they would only put you on drug and manage you till you die,” Madam Azika stated.

Her talk also opened up concerns about HIV prevalence rate in Ghana where the Northern region is said to have the lowest rate of 0.7%, according to the 2016 Sentinel Survey Report. The Upper East region follows with 1.7%, the Central region 1.8%, the Greater Accra region 2.4%, the Upper West and the Western regions 2.5%, the Ashanti and the Eastern regions 2.6% whilst the Brong Ahafo and the Volta regions have the highest prevalence rate of 2.7%.

The national prevalence rate, which was 1.8% in 2015, rose to 2.6% in 2016.

Stigma and Discrimination responsible for increased rate in Upper East- GAC

HIV prevalence rate in the Upper East shot up from 1.5% in 2015 to 1.7% in 2016. Bawku, with 2.4%, led the region in 2015. That figure dropped in 2016 to 1.4%.

Navrongo, capital of the Kassena-Nankana Municipality, whose rate was 1.8% in 2015, now has the region’s highest rate of 2.8% as captured in 2016 survey report.

Bolgatanga, the regional capital, moved up from 1.4% in 2015 to 2.3% in 2016. The Builsa area (north and south) who showed a zero-percent prevalence in 2015 saw a climb to 0.5% in 2016.

The Ghana AIDS Commission (GAC) has attributed the increase in the region’s prevalence rate to stigma and discrimination.

“Stigma and discrimination of people living with HIV is still an issue. Because people don’t know about the modes of transmission of HIV, they keep stigmatising those living with HIV in the Upper East. I interacted with some of the people living with the [disease], they were telling me they were not treated properly.

“The Ghana AIDS Commission has a policy, the Ghana AIDS Commission Act 2016, which states that if you stigmatise a person living with HIV, you can be sent to court. Based on that one, we are currently engaging stakeholders so that people would try to treat people with HIV in a respectful manner, love and not discriminate against them,” Gifty Apiung Aninanya, the Upper East Regional Technical Coordinator of the Ghana AIDS Commission, told Starr News.

 

 

 

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‘Balls in Danger’: What are the balls?

Seth Kwame Boateng of Joy FM “Balls in Danger” has brought the men’s balls into the limelight, but what do you know about the balls? The Prostate.net has the answers to this question. Let’s look at what they have to say about the Balls:

“Testicles” and “balls” are not exactly the same thing. When men refer to their balls, they are actually talking about three things: the testicles, the scrotum (the skin sac that protects the testicles), and tiny tubes called epididymides that are attached to the testis and which store and transport sperm. Your testicles are your big T (testosterone) producers, so you want to make sure they are healthy and happy at all times!

Location, location, location

Real estate agents know the value of location, and your testicles aren’t much different. That is, your left ball and your right ball are not exactly next to each other; one hangs a little bit lower than the other (or one is higher than the other, your preference).

Each ball is approximately 2 inches by 1 inch, although typically the right testicle is slightly bigger than the left one. However, even though you might think the bigger testicle should hang lower, that’s not the way nature works. Go figure.

Bigger is not necessarily better

According to a study conducted at Emory University, men who have smaller testes are more likely to be nurturing dads than are their peers who have bigger balls. The authors evaluated 70 American men, including Caucasians, African-Americans, and Asians, who had a child aged one to two years old.

Analysis of brain function while the men looked at children and questionnaire responses resulted in the conclusion that “the biology of human males reflects a trade-off between mating effort and parenting effort, as indexed by testicular size and nurturing-related brain function, respectively.”

Two’s company, three’s a crowd

An extremely rare condition called polyorchidism is defined as the presence of three—or more—testicles. Only about 200 cases of polyorchidism, more or less, have been reported in the literature, so it’s not a condition that should keep you up at night with worry. However, if you have a unexplained mass in your scrotum, it’s something your doctor may want to rule out.

Pain in the balls.

If you experience painful, swollen, and/or inflamed testicles for no apparent reason (e.g., no one has kicked you down under), it may be time to see your doctor. Trauma to the testicles, such as from a sports injury, usually results in temporary pain.

In other cases, however, such as testicular torsion (twisted testicle, which is a medical emergency), epididymitis (inflammation of the epididymis, often caused by a sexually transmitted disease such as gonorrhea), inguinal hernia, testicular tumor, or orchitis (inflammation of the testicle from bacteria or viruses), a doctor should be consulted. Sometimes it’s more than just a pain in the balls!

Bumpy balls

One thing you can say about a man’s balls—they aren’t attractive. All those little bumps and lumps sure don’t make them pleasing to the eye, but are they dangerous as well? In most cases, no. However, an enlarged vein called a varicocele can have a negative impact on fertility and be painful. Tiny fluid-filled bumps called epididymal cysts are unsightly but harmless.

Only 4 percent of the unusual lumps on the balls end up being cancer. If you have a lump or bump that doesn’t seem quite right or that has appeared suddenly or changed in size or shape, be sure to have your doctor check it out.

Cool balls, man

Your body temperature may hover around 98.6 degrees, but your balls run about 1 to 3 degrees cooler. Why? It seems to be nature’s way to keep sperm “on ice” so to speak. A cooler temperature keeps sperm in a resting state until they are ready to move on and result in pregnancy or just a vacation away from home.

On the other side of the cooler, when men experience a fever or sit in a sauna for a length of time, their sperm counts are temporarily reduced. Cool is where it’s at.

Balls rise to the occasion

Just before a man ejaculates, his testicles rise up close to his body and make contact at the moment of truth. More specifically, in most men the right testicle begins the journey upwards before the left one. Since the right ball is usually already closer to the body (see “Location, location, location”), it has less of a journey to make.

Pampering balls?

If you want your balls to be all they can be, then pamper them. That means no smoking (lowers sperm count), limit alcohol use (lowers T and sperm count), dress them comfortably (no overly tight underwear, pants, or bathing suits—except on limited special occasions!), wash them daily and gently, and protect them from trauma, especially in sports.

On this latter point, wear a protective cup during contact sports and get the right saddle for your bicycle.

Balls have muscles

Well, not exactly, but there are several types of muscles in the area that are responsible for keeping your balls in motion. For example, the cremasteric muscle works like an elevator, causing your scrotum and testicles to rise and lower (see “Balls rise to the occasion”).

Another muscle called cartos causes the testicles to move within the scrotum. This muscle tissue is also the one that can be blamed for the wrinkly appearance of your balls. The good news: you don’t need to work these muscles in the gym!

Ball check

Once a month, all men should check their balls. Not just a perfunctory pat, but a thorough examination to be sure there are no hard lumps or any bumps that have changed in size or shape. Why?

Testicular cancer is not near the top of the disease list, but it does affect about 1 in every 270 men. When caught early, it usually can be cured. The best time to perform this ritual is when showering. If something doesn’t feel right, see your doctor.

Ball busting

During sexual arousal, a man’s balls can increase in size by 50 percent or more. Of course, most men are too busy thinking about something else while the blood is rushing to their testicles, but their partners may notice the change.

This ball busting event is temporary, and the testicles return to normal size once the excitement is over. However, if a man’s balls don’t return to normal size or become enlarged at other times, it’s time for a visit to your doctor.

 

 

 

 

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Raphael Nyarkotey Obu

Lord Bondzie, others billed for Young and Free Concert

On Saturday, 12th August, 2017, Reconcilers International holds its 5th edition of Young and Free at the International Charismatic Church (ICC), Fadama in Accra.

Since 2013, Reconcilers International has organised their theatre program, Young and Free; a night of drama, choreography, spoken word and music. It is a program designed for the Youth and lovers of theatre. It aims at ministering the word of God through the Arts to its audience to help them in their walk with the Lord Jesus Christ. It also seeks to help reconcile lost souls back to God the Father: drawing them away from waywardness and showing them they can be young and still have a meaningful life of purpose and freedom that comes from God.

Ministering at this year’s Young and Free is Lord Bondzie (of No tribe fame), E-Rock, Worship Revolution and Reconcilers International (Host).

They have had sponsorship, over the years, from a few generous corporate brands like Carex from PZ Cuzzons and Kharis Media, and also from individuals like Uncle Ebo Whyte and Roverman productions. With these valuable supports, they have worked hard to bring educative, hilarious and heart- warming drama, inspiring spoken word performances and spiritual music to their audience. Their stage set-up for the drama is always a sign of how much diligence is given to what they do.

They have had acts from amazing artists and groups like Akesse Bempong, Kinzkid, Worshippers and Worship in Motion on the Young and Free platform.

These young people made up of students (both High School and Tertiary), graduates, engineers, architects, teachers, illustrators, artistes, photographers, bankers, entrepreneurs among others, have this in common; love for God, love for the arts (Theatre, Dance and Poetry) and a desire to show the love of God through these art forms.

Nothing is as inspiring as a youth on the move to make an impact in their immediate world.  You will have to be at a Reconcilers International meeting or rehearsal to see these young people who are Christ-driven and desirous to bring positive change to their world in their own small way.

According to the president, Ing. Pastor Yooku Yawson, Young and Free isn’t the only project they do. Reconcilers International has a Mentorship Program that is conducted termly in JHS and Senior High Schools to inspire the mentees to become their best selves.

They also have a Scholarship Scheme that currently takes care of the tuition of about 21 students in basic and JHS from four public schools in Accra. The scholarship continues to provide support when any of the students excel in their BECE. Currently, they have one of the beneficiaries of the scheme in St. Aquinas studying General Science.

In addition to that, they will be going for their first outreach program at Bole – Bamboi in November. The members have started donating items towards this outreach.

 

 

Source:

citifmonline.com

Forgiveness is the oil of a relationship

Forgiveness is vital for establishing a long lasting relationship. I call it the oil that refreshes, blends and revitalizes a relationship no matter how bad things have been, if only both partners would allow themselves to heal and to let go of any hurt.

It is a gift that a partner must be willing to give freely and willingly. In simple terms, it is a way of giving up your right to hold a grudge against your partner. The below are steps that can help in facilitating forgiveness in relationships.

Decide to forgive

You would have to make a decision to forgive your partner. Sometimes you may not feel like forgiving your partner because you are hurt or still in anger. This feeling may still be experienced because you want to pay him or her back for what he or she has done.

However, once you decide to let go, there would always be a chance to overcome the hurt and anger that has been harboured because of the hurt. Loreen (a married woman for ten years) had this to say ‘any time my husband offends me,  I try to remember the number of times I have offended him too. This allows me to quickly make a decision to let go, though I talk to him first, to make him aware of his offense‘.

§ Talk about your feelings

After your partner accepts a mistake and has apologized and asked for forgiveness; you must decide to let go. In order to forgive and forget, you would have to talk about the issue with your partner.

Sometimes partners are not able to totally forgive each other because they may still have questions that have to be answered. Answering some of these questions, may bring a closure to the hurt and eventually forgiveness.

You should allow each other to express their feelings, to be heard and to ensure that you understand each other. All these are very essential in ensuring that you move on.

Alfred (a married man for fifteen years) said this ‘as men we do not talk much but women should try and listen to our side of the story whenever there are disagreements or hurts, it helps with forgiveness in relationships. Men should also be heard just as women are allowed to speak their minds’.

§ Make adjustment if necessary

What is important here is to try and make all the necessary arrangements or adjustments that would help to avoid committing the same mistakes that lead to offences. This is particularly essential when the offence keeps re-occurring.

Doing this would help to avoid future disappointments and disagreements. For instance your partner spoke harshly to you, when you were among your friends because you tried to pick on him. This led to a heated argument and exchange of harsh words.

The question is, what do you do, in order not to hurt each other in such a manner again. You may decide not to pick on each other when you are among other people. It may not be easy, but you would have to cope with such an arrangement for the sake of your relationship.

Stacy confesses that ‘any time I am driving and my husband is seated by me, we always argue and exchange harsh words which always leads to unnecessary hurts. To put an end to this, I decided not to comment on anything he says whenever I am driving. He also decided to be careful with his words. Since we decided on this, we hardly quarrel when I am driving’.

§ Let go of past hurts

Thinking about past hurts would not allow you to forgive easily. It is always better to focus on the positive side of your relationship. You can focus on some of the memorable places you have been or the happy times you have spent together as a couple.

Always remember that the one who is closer to you is more likely to hurt you, simply because he or she is closer. If you have a habit of dwelling on past hurts you would never enjoy your relationship. You can always talk to a marriage counselor or a pastor whenever you need help with this.

§ Give yourself time
Deciding to forgive does not necessary mean that you can easily forget all that happened or do away with the pain easily especially depending on the issue at hand. It is important to admit that there are different degrees of hurts depending on the harm that has been caused. With time you would be healed of any pain or hurts if only you would allow yourself and let go of the past.

 

 

Source:

myjoyonline.com

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